i need some advice... ='(

[48xShiho-chanx69]

let me introduce myself without telling my name. im still a student here in my country. a 1st year high school student (13 yrs. old) to be exact...ever since i was in grade 6 in my previous school, i think i was always being toyed by everyone i knew. especially last time in our investigatory project, the classmates i trusted the most failed me, truly. dey just cared about their grades.. now im in high school, i still sense that sensation that i wont have any true friends.. and i heard from one of my classmates that the one i thought to be my closest friend in the class doesn't think of me as a close friend.. she, last time, texted me dat i was 1 of her closest friends.. but my other classmate even told me that she said that she has no friends in the class.. wats wrong?  is it just me? wats wrong wid me? or are they the problem? 

i mean, i hv a nice personality to them anyway....

i nid some advice.... 

[c-square]

I'm sorry to hear about your problem.  I can understand from experience, as I was kind of an outcast in high school as well.  I know that in the first year of high school it can be hard to make friends, especially when everyone else is.  It might give you a little hope to know that it did get easier for me in my second and third years, and I hope the same happens to you.  My best suggestion for you is to go out and try to meet people.  Find some clubs that you have interest in, or join a sports team that you enjoy doing.  Joining a drama group is another good way to get to know people.  By meeting people with similar interests, there's more chance of you finding someone you can relate with. 

My second piece of advice is to keep your expectations low to start out.  Aim to make some acquaintances, perhaps people you can say 'hi' to in the halls, or chat briefly with about whatever club or group you're a part of.  Not everyone will click at the beginning, and it's best to not feel disappointed.  Keep meeting people, and eventually you'll find one or two people you can really get to know. 

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, be confident.  Learn and know that you're a wonderful person, and if someone doesn't want to be your friend, it's their loss, not yours.  And if at first you don't feel confident, then fake it.  If you have doubts, think of arguments why those doubts aren't valid.  The more you keep practicing, the stronger your confidence will be, and the more people will get to see the real you!

As for your friend, if she said you're her friend, take her at face value.  I'd believe my friend over some random person.  It may be true you feel closer to her than she does to you, but that's the way life works sometimes, and there's nothing bad, wrong or shameful about it.  Forget about who's closer to whom, and just enjoy the friendship.

Best of luck, and I hope you're able to build many happy high school memories to look back on later in life. 

[Found]

My second piece of advice is to keep your expectations low to start out.

So true.

I'm in first year of high school too. c-square said it all, really. Be confident. And be sensitive to the aims of the people who interact with you. If you know they're going to hurt you, stay away.

.. I've never really been good at wording advice.

[48xShiho-chanx69]

I'm sorry to hear about your problem.  I can understand from experience, as I was kind of an outcast in high school as well.  I know that in the first year of high school it can be hard to make friends, especially when everyone else is.  It might give you a little hope to know that it did get easier for me in my second and third years, and I hope the same happens to you.  My best suggestion for you is to go out and try to meet people.  Find some clubs that you have interest in, or join a sports team that you enjoy doing.  Joining a drama group is another good way to get to know people.  By meeting people with similar interests, there's more chance of you finding someone you can relate with. 

My second piece of advice is to keep your expectations low to start out.  Aim to make some acquaintances, perhaps people you can say 'hi' to in the halls, or chat briefly with about whatever club or group you're a part of.  Not everyone will click at the beginning, and it's best to not feel disappointed.  Keep meeting people, and eventually you'll find one or two people you can really get to know. 

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, be confident.  Learn and know that you're a wonderful person, and if someone doesn't want to be your friend, it's their loss, not yours.  And if at first you don't feel confident, then fake it.  If you have doubts, think of arguments why those doubts aren't valid.  The more you keep practicing, the stronger your confidence will be, and the more people will get to see the real you!

As for your friend, if she said you're her friend, take her at face value.  I'd believe my friend over some random person.  It may be true you feel closer to her than she does to you, but that's the way life works sometimes, and there's nothing bad, wrong or shameful about it.  Forget about who's closer to whom, and just enjoy the friendship.

Best of luck, and I hope you're able to build many happy high school memories to look back on later in life. 

thanks. ill try to cheer up hehe 

[48xShiho-chanx69]

My second piece of advice is to keep your expectations low to start out.

So true.

I'm in first year of high school too. c-square said it all, really. Be confident. And be sensitive to the aims of the people who interact with you. If you know they're going to hurt you, stay away.

.. I've never really been good at wording advice.

yea.. i just feel the vibes or the feeling when i just cant have friends in this area. although it sometimes goes off.. hehe 

[Conia]

I'd believe my friend over some random person.  It may be true you feel closer to her than she does to you, but that's the way life works sometimes, and there's nothing bad, wrong or shameful about it.  Forget about who's closer to whom, and just enjoy the friendship.

I remarked what I think it is the most important part from c-square's post.



Don't panic. You can't expect friendships to happen, they just happen, sooner or later.
Be yourself. Nobody want a friend who doesn't show who she is.
Just like c-square said, try to look for new places, somewhere where you can share your interests with other people. It is A LOT easier to interact with people this way.(For example, in this forum,you share your DC interests with us, and I'm sure you feel well while you are virtually here)
I insist: you are 13, don't panic. Can I tell you a personal story? I got my best friend from high school(we are in different college now), we became really close at the age of 16 I think... We got the same pasion for videogames,computers, DC,etc... What may surprise you, Is that I know him since we were 10 years old, when he entered my school. There was a 6 years gap in which we didn't notice each other,and now things have changed.

Hope this helps, have a Nice Life

[48xShiho-chanx69]

I'd believe my friend over some random person.  It may be true you feel closer to her than she does to you, but that's the way life works sometimes, and there's nothing bad, wrong or shameful about it.  Forget about who's closer to whom, and just enjoy the friendship.

I remarked what I think it is the most important part from c-square's post.



Don't panic. You can't expect friendships to happen, they just happen, sooner or later.
Be yourself. Nobody want a friend who doesn't show who she is.
Just like c-square said, try to look for new places, somewhere where you can share your interests with other people. It is A LOT easier to interact with people this way.(For example, in this forum,you share your DC interests with us, and I'm sure you feel well while you are virtually here)
I insist: you are 13, don't panic. Can I tell you a personal story? I got my best friend from high school(we are in different college now), we became really close at the age of 16 I think... We got the same pasion for videogames,computers, DC,etc... What may surprise you, Is that I know him since we were 10 years old, when he entered my school. There was a 6 years gap in which we didn't notice each other,and now things have changed.

Hope this helps, have a Nice Life

thanks. ill try to be ok. 

[bluekaitou1412]

I wanna say 2 words: be optimistic.