Not any more wrong than the 7-year-old-looking Conan with the 17 year old Ran. Or the 7-year-old-looking Conan with the 7-year-old-looking Haibara.
Let's face it, as a 7 year old Conan would not be able to be with any girl - at least not in a serious relationship.
Yes, there is so much more wrong with that. Conan, Ai, and Ran are all grown-ups in mind and Ayumi is still a giggly little school girl, both on the outside and on the inside. If Ran were attracted to Conan, not knowing that he is in fact Shinichi, that would be plain wrong.
But it would be okay if Conan felt for Haibara, who he only knows as a 7 year old? And the number of times Haibara has seen the grown up Shinichi can be counted on one hand as well.
Why is Conan not allowed to fall in love with Ayumis personality as well, especially if she is given enough time to grow up sufficiently?
This leads to the conclusion that Conan HAS to grow up to be with anyone.
I tend to agree, but Ai and Conan both harbour the romantic feelings of their grown-up selves, even if there's nothing going on in the downstairs department
Haibara wasn't exactly in love with anyone while she was still Shiho, right? That doesn't mean she would be unable to fall in love now - after all Ayumi did so as well - but if you want to disregard the possibility that Ayumi is really in love, then the same must be true for Haibara as well. Love has a physical component after all, it is influenced by hormons. And as it is quite obvious, both Conan and Haibara have the same hormon balance as any other child their (physical) age.
Really? What did Conan learn from Haibara that he didn't know before? There is nothing that comes to my mind. Maybe you will find a small thing if you search long enough. But the same could probably be said for Ayumi as well.
Emotionally, he really hasn't learned that much, at least nothing I could cite. But she can remind him that he is still but human and counter-balances his optimism. And she is very dear to him, protecting her is a definite priority. If you ask me, she comes right after Ran for him.
And Conan learning something from Ayumi? Seriously? What could he possibly learn from her? That pink is a very pretty colour? (Ai has learned something from her, I'll give you that. ) Stop deluding yourself...
I think getting shrunk and his first days as a 7 year old have shown him enough humility - not to forget the cases where he was not able to save everyone despite his best efforts, he didn't need Haibara for that. Counter-balancing his optimism is nothing that he learned, it is just something that Haibara does constantly. And actually, it encourages him (and the other DBs) to be even more optimistic than to agree on her view.
I think Ayumi has taught him that he shouldn't underestimate little children. Okay, actually all the Detective Boys have surprised Conan in a positive way now and then.
You have to assume some stability in the likes, dislikes and behavior of the characters. Yes, Ayumi might change her interests and values. But at the same point Haibara could become a giggling, girly friend-of-all-living-beings. Could happen. But it is unlikely.
Again, your deluding yourself. How much do you have in common with your 7-year-old self? How much do you have in common with your 17-year-old self? People change drastically in their teenage years. The personalities of Shinichi and Shiho are not set in stone yet, but they won't change radically. Evolution instead of revolution.
Haibara becoming giggling and girly? There is no chance that will happen unless she falls prey to some mental disease. She is feminine, sophisticated and a friend-of-all-creatures.
I would say my character and everything did not change very much. Of course I got a lot of knowledge and greatly improved my social skills during that time, but my basic values and interests remained the same.
Let's take a look at 7 year old Shinichi - or at least at the few things that we know about him. How much did he change compared to his 17 year old self? Not much, right? So I expect the same for Ayumi.
As I said: There is a chance that Ayumi could change her personality while growing up. But at the same time, so could Haibara. Though, I expect both of their characters to remain similar to how they are now.
Translation: Don't have a friend who always agrees with you, but have a friend who argues with you.
Might work with a friend. After all, if you feel like doing different things, you can just do so. There is no reason to be always together.
However, if you want to build a stable, permanent relationship, this won't work.
Again, this is pure speculation. Ran certain was impressed by Shinichis knowledge since early childhood and carried on (and developed) her feelings while they grew up. There is no reason why Ayumi can't be the same way.
Shinichi's knowledge is impressive for an adult as well. Considering that Ayumi is a Mini-Ran, she will probably grow up to be just like her.
Well, finally something we agree on. I mean... you consider Ayumi growing up like Ran as an advantage for her relationship with Conan as well, right?
He sees her as a little girl right now because... well, because she IS a little girl. (Though he also seems her as a friend I think.)
Do you really have to tell youse about the Westermarck effect
This sentence seems a bit messed up. Not sure what you wanted to say, but I never mentioned the Westermarck effect in my previous post. Since it couldn't be applied anyway.
The Westermarck effect will, for God's sake. He will never fall in love with her but he might use her as a replacement for a Ran if she shuns him. Ayumi will grow up to be a rather beautiful girl and will be available for Conan to fulfill his physical needs. He's but a man after all.
Unfortunately, the Westermarck effect might be in the way of AixConan as well. He chiefly thinks of her as a little girl even if he knows that she isn't. This is illustrated by the fact that he calls her Haibara even when she's back in her old body. This wouldn't be a problem if she takes the antidote at the end of the series and once again becomes what she is - a gorgeous woman. He has known the girl Haibara for less than a year, so his view of her can still change.
If she, however, chooses to lead the rest of her life as Ai Haibara, then Shinichi will continue to think of her as exactly that.
You seem to forget something about the Westermarck effect: It only applies to children in regular contact with each other during the first few years of their lives.
According to what I read this includes only the first 5 years. Ayumi is already older than that, so the Westernmarck effect will not influence her affections towards Conan. (Though, it might affect her relationship to Genta and Mitsuhiko, if you believe the special to movie 12).
This effect will only have an influence on Shinichi x Ran - again, depending on how much contact they had. It would not prevent Haibara from developing feelings for Conan as well in future.